Photoblogging: Mother’s Day 2015

For Mother’s Day this year, Rich and Coraline let me choose what I wanted to do since, as Coraline reminded me at least a dozen times, “it’s your special day!” I decided that I wanted to check out the brunch at The Cheesecake Factory, where I lived it up with a Belgian waffle and Buffalo Blasts, and got a slice of cheesecake to go. We then swung back by our house to drop off our leftovers and so Rich and Coraline could give me my Mother’s Day presents: two dresses from New York & Co., Clinique nail polish and a face mask, and bacon seasoning (for the win!). The gifts were spot on, particularly the pink patterned dress I’d been looking at the night before on my iPad; Rich was amused to discover that I’d been thisclose to buying it for myself.

We then went to the Knoxville Museum of Art, Coraline’s first-ever visit to an art museum. She did pretty well for her first visit, although she is far from being ready for the guided tour. I loved that she asked for me to photograph her in front of the art she liked the best. My favorite was the inverted Mona Lisa made with spools of thread by Devorah Sperber; viewed through a glass orb, the image was then right-side-up. It was recognizable enough even upside-down that Coraline exclaimed, “Hey, it’s Mona Lisa!”

After the museum we changed Coraline into the shorts, T-shirt, and sneakers I’d grabbed at the house so she could play at Fort Kid across the street from the KMA. She had a blast and made some friends, while I tried not to die of heatstroke even sitting in the shade (I think the temperature was close to 90 by then). The heat made Coraline a bit cranky on the drive back home, but her mood improved significantly once she cooled off. During her afternoon nap, I passed out on the couch with Buster since being outside in hot weather pretty much drains me of all my energy. Also, it was Mother’s Day and I didn’t feel like doing housework.

It was my turn for bedtime duty, and as I tucked Coraline in bed, I thanked her again for making Mother’s Day so great. She said, “You’re welcome. And I wasn’t even bad today!” That’s my girl, and I’m so lucky to be her mom.

Cora next to Woman and Child in a Meadow

Coraline by her (first) favorite painting, Untitled (Woman and Child in a Meadow) by Catherine Wiley.

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Taking in the museum

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“Mom, take a picture of me in front of this one!”

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I loved this piece so much.

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Rich on the KMA balcony overlooking World’s Fair Park

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Standing in front of another favorite painting

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Coraline giving her first TED talk

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Enjoying the giant wall Lite-Brite in the kids’ area

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Coraline took this picture! Turns out she took 13 more almost-identical ones, but I think she got a great shot of us.

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Me and my best girl. She was giddy at the thought of us wearing our maxi dresses for Mother’s Day. Of course, she topped off her look with a tiara.

 

 

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A Conversation With Coraline: Bird, Meet Bee

“Mommy, I really want a baby sister.”

“I know. Tell your father since I can’t do anything about that without him.”

“Yeah, because he needs to be at the hospital to help when the baby is born.”

“Well … that’s, uh, part of it.”

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Things That Go Bump in the Night

Song Lyric of the Day:

All I want is to be left alone in my average home / But why do I always feel like I’m in the Twilight Zone, and / I always feel like somebody’s watching me

Rockwell (featuring Michael Jackson) / “Somebody’s Watching Me

A few weeks ago Coraline started exhibiting some anxiety about how safe our house is. She was convinced someone — a “bad guy” — was going to break in. Rich and I were asked on an almost daily basis what would happen if someone broke into our house. She would also obsess over noises, needing to know exactly what she was hearing and from where in the house the sound originated. It wasn’t uncommon for her to hear a thump or a lawnmower start and fly across the room into our arms. Her anxiety would ratchet up at bedtime, almost like clockwork. Rich and I did our best to reassure her that our house is secure, that our dogs would never let anyone get to her, and that Mommy and Daddy would never let anyone hurt her, either. Even Buster the Attack Cat would help keep her safe. We went through all the measures we take to keep her safe, including keeping our house secure, and it seems like that finally sunk in for her. This is where I’d like to point out that for all the horror movies and scary shows I watch (The Fall almost gave me nightmares), I always wait to watch them until after she’s in bed for the night. If I didn’t, her anxieties would be pretty damn specific, with her maybe mentioning a certain hockey-mask wearer or cave-dwelling creatures or demon-possessed dolls or Bughuul.

It’s been a while now since Coraline has mentioned the “bad guy” and her anxiety seems to have completely faded. Unfortunately, now my and Rich’s anxiety about home security has ratcheted up. It seems as if crime in Knoxville is on the rise of late, with the news (and friends and colleagues) reporting about home invasions, car break-ins, and robberies on an almost-daily basis. Some of that crime has hit frighteningly close to home, so we’ve been taking measures to not only improve existing security measures, but to bring about a bit of peace of mind, for all of us.

I’m trying not to let my own increased anxiety affect Coraline. Rich and I never discuss certain things around her since the child hears everything, and while I’m doing my best to remain extra vigilant, I don’t let her see the measures I’m taking to do so. It’s a fine line to walk these days: We need to live our life, but also be aware of everything going on around our property and in our neighborhood. Times like these remind me to be grateful we have the kind of neighbors and neighborhood where we all watch out for each other. At least the bad guys haven’t robbed us of our sense of community.

Jamie Dornan as creepy-ass Paul Spector in The Fall

Did I mention The Fall almost gave me nightmares? That show had me scared to go to the bathroom. For reals.

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Finding My Me Time

Song Lyric of the Day:

Baby you need time for yourself / I’ll give it to you / All the rest seems to logically follow

Earlimart / “Time for Yourself

I’ve read parenting blogs for several years now, even before I became a mom. As such, I have read a lot of posts where parents (usually fellow moms) complain that they can’t find or get any me time. Which I think is total crap. As parents we spend a lot — hell, the majority — of our time with or on our kids to raise them right, spend quality time with them, help with their homework, make sure they are fed and clothed, that they get to bed on time. That’s a lot what being a parent is about, and something for which I, and lot of others, willingly signed up. That parenting takes time should be no surprise because we are raising small human beings. But we still need to find even five minutes a day to spend on ourselves. Our sanity requires it.

I work outside the home, and as Coraline has gotten older and more self-reliant, my typical day has changed quite a bit. I usually take my me time during the workday. I always have a book in my car, so come lunchtime, most days I hop in, drive to a restaurant, and enjoy a silent solo hour of reading while I eat. It’s wonderful me time. An added bonus is that the servers at my usual haunts know me, so I get great quiet service. On the days I either grab lunch with friends or simply can’t get away, I still make sure I take my book and find a quiet corner somewhere in our office building and take a short reading break. Failing that, I wait until Coraline is tucked in for the night then kick back with Buster and watch a little bit of TV after checking in/hanging out with the spouse.

I think parents also need to let go of unrealistic expectations for what qualifies as me/kid-free time. It doesn’t need to be a spa day or an overnight hotel stay away from the family. Hell, when Rich takes Coraline so I can go to the supermarket/Target/PetSmart by myself, it’s like a vacation. A vacation I make the most of because it’s time for and by myself. Even if it is technically running errands.

I’m lucky that Rich is (1) around and (2) a hands-on father. That makes it a bit easier to grab quality solo time on both our parts, because we can leave Coraline with the other parent, and we work at coordinating that so we can each get away now and then. Sometimes we even manage to get away together. Coraline is remarkably self-sufficient now, so we just leave a big bowl of water out and baggies of fruit snacks around the house for her while we’re out.*

 

I would love to know how — and even if — single parents and stay-at-home parents find/make me time for themselves. Because I really do think it’s important for our — and our kids’ — well-being that moms and dads get that little bit of time to decompress or just do whatever the hell they want for a little while. Even if it’s something as simple as not watching kids’ TV. Because surely I’m not the only parent who gets sick of watching certain kids’ shows or family movies on repeat, right? Right?!?

I can say with certainty that if I were a stay-at-home mom, I’d be running for the hills as soon as Rich got home from work. For at least five minutes, anyway.

"Wait, you left me fruit snacks where exactly?"

“Wait, you left me fruit snacks where exactly?”

*I am of course kidding. Don’t call CPS. She is watched by family members during those times. Who provide her with a big bowl of water and baggies of fruit snacks.

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Little Big Girl

Song Lyric of the Day:

I’d like to show you a million things / I’d like to make the world for you a better place / But when it pours, it really rains, so / Put on your boots, and let’s play

Sleater-Kinney / “Lions and Tigers

Coraline has always been a little ahead of the curve for almost all of her developmental milestones: rolling over, crawling, walking, talking, long division. It seems like only yesterday we were counting how many words she was using in a sentence: four, five, eight, twelve. Now I have a teenager trapped in a 4 1/2-year-old’s body, who knows how to properly use the word compromise to get what she wants, speaks in paragraphs, and says things like, “I can breathe perfectly fine without using my nasal spray.” I won’t mention how inflated her ego got when she got bumped up to the fives at preschool late last year, “Even though I’m still four!” She’s also schooled herself on how to be passive-aggressive, prone to comment when the weather’s nice that “this sure would be a nice day to go to a park or playground.” Yes, kid, we know it would be.

It should come as no surprise then that she had all of her baby teeth by the time her first birthday rolled around. What did come as a surprise to me during her dental cleaning at the end of January was when her dentist announced that Coraline had two loose teeth. While I thought I might cry at hearing the news that my baby already had loose teeth, Coraline beamed, proudly exclaiming, “I’m growing up so fast!” My reply: an internalized sob.

Her dentist said that while it was a little unusual to have loose teeth that early, it wasn’t unexpected given that Coraline had all her teeth by such a young age and that we shouldn’t worry about it. Of course, as soon as we left the office, Coraline wanted to call my mom to tell her the big news. She then went on to tell every single person she encountered that she already had two loose teeth and would ask if they wanted to see them. Everyone in the greater Knoxville area knew about those loose teeth and that she was in the fives even though she was still only four.

Cut to a couple of Saturdays ago when we were all doing yard work. I asked Coraline if I could see how loose her tooth was only to discover it hanging by a thread. And so, at the ripe old age of 4 years, 6 months, and 12 days, and after a bit of hysteria on her part at the thought of her tooth finally coming out, Rich had the honor of yanking the tooth. She wailed like a woman in church about the blood (which lasted all of one minute), then looked in the mirror and said, “I can’t believe I lost my first tooth!” We celebrated by taking her to Bruster’s for some ice cream. Even though I don’t really care for ice cream, I indulged out of moral support. It took her a couple of days to work up the nerve to leave her tooth out for the Tooth Fairy. She was happy to find a tiny Iron Man toy plus $2 and a quarter. That’s a fortune when you’re 4 1/2 years old.

One week and two days later, tooth number two was ready to come out. Rich again did the honors, only this time Coraline calmed down quicker. She looked in the mirror and saw the blood in her mouth, announcing, “I look like a vampire!” Clearly she was getting the hang of how to handle losing a tooth and looking forward to another visit from the Tooth Fairy.

It’s hard to believe how quickly my baby is growing. She even got bumped up to the big girls’ dance/gym class recently, another fact she enjoys sharing with everyone she meets. Oh, and she currently has three other loose teeth. Pray for me.

Coraline at almost 2 1/2 years old (photo taken 2/15/13)

Coraline at almost 2 1/2 years old (photo taken 2/15/13)

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Coraline the other night showing off the gap where her two bottom teeth used to be (photo taken 4/19/15)

 

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Photoblogging: In the Deep Woods

Smokies

To celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary, the spouse and I took a hike in the Smokies this past weekend. It had been a while since our last hike together, and it was great to be outside on such a beautiful day. (Photo taken 4/11/15)

 

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A Conversation With Coraline: Heaven Is a One-Way Trip

After discussing our dearly departed dogs:

“Why do people not come back from heaven?”

“Because they just don’t, sweetie. People and animals don’t live forever. But the good thing is in heaven you’re healthy and happy, and you know someday you will see your loved ones again.”

“Yes, when their time on earth has passed.”

“Wait — what did you just say?”

Simply smiles in reply.

“How old are you?”

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Photoblogging: Cora Had a Little Goat

At her friend's petting zoo birthday party, Coraline made fast friends with a baby lamb (3/7/15).

At her friend’s petting zoo birthday party, Coraline made fast friends with a baby goat. I won’t lie — if he’d have fit in my purse, I would’ve tried to smuggle him home. (Photo taken 3/7/15)

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A Conversation With Coraline: Cows and Heroes

“What did you learn about in school today?”

“We talked about cows and heroes!”

“Cows and heroes? That’s interesting.”

“And guess what?”

“What?”

“I’ve been waiting to tell you this all day because it’s really special. Do you know who my hero is?”

“No. Who’s your hero?”

Pointing excitedly: “You are! You’re my hero! Isn’t that the best thing you ever heard in your whole life?”

“You know, kid, actually it is.”

March 24, 2015

March 24, 2015

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And Lo on This Day Their 15th Wedding Anniversary Came to Pass

Song Lyric of the Day:

Tell me one more time / What is this thing called love / I’m not quite sure / As to what is going down / But I’m feelin’ hunky dory / ‘Bout this thing that I found

Heavy D & the Boyz / “Now That We Found Love

Fifteen years ago today, on an unusually cold and snowy April day in Knoxville, Rich and I tied the knot. I could write something sappy, deep, and meaningful, but I’ve already taken care of that in years past.

This year, I will simply thank Rich for being my best friend through thick and thin, for being with me through all the ups and downs, the highs and the lows, and for being the best dad possible to our own little Curly Sue. I love you, honey!

Mystery Mine ... of Marriage!

This is what you look like when you wake up one day and realize you’ve been married for 15 years.

 

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